Workplace Coach

Monthly Archives: November 2017

My dilemma: I was recruited for a board position in an organization I have been passionate about for years by our longest serving and most respected members.  They nearly fawned over my accomplishments when they drummed up support for me. I resisted and didn’t think I’d done enough to warrant a board seat.  But they said I “made good choices” and that they “trusted my judgment.”  Additionally, they said our organization needed… Read More

Q: Like thousands of other women, I wrote my #MeToo. Although I disguised some of the facts to protect myself, it was clear to me and perhaps to others that it involved a senior manager in my company. After it published, I learned two former employees of my current employer had written similar stories about the same man. I can’t tell you how mad I am, not just at the man but… Read More

Question: I’ve known “John” since fifth grade. He had career success in his twenties, but it’s been downhill for him ever since. Recently, he got laid off, let me know he had almost no money and would do “anything.” A couple weeks later when my company needed someone to replace one of my entry-level employees who unexpectedly quit, I gave John’s name to our HR department. He got hired on my recommendation…. Read More

Question: My coworker has a bad habit of opening her mouth and letting angry words fly. Recently, she ripped into our mutual supervisor in front of me. Our supervisor seemed taken by surprise but maintained her cool and handled the situation professionally. Afterwards, my coworker asked me what I thought. I think she expected me to ask why she’d said what she had. I didn’t. I felt she was trying to pull… Read More

  Sex harassment – so obvious we think we know what it means and is. But do we? Which of these myths have you or others in your workplace believed? I never asked her for sex and so it wasn’t sex harassment.             Who said sex harassment was about sex? Often, it’s about power and one individual’s desire to dominate another. Sexual harassment includes repeated insults, innuendos and touches that have little… Read More

  “I didn’t see it coming.” Then, when it was too late, when the human resources department or your supervisor handed you a layoff or termination notice, you wondered how you’d let yourself be blindsided. You’d thought yourself a rising star, your talent immunizing you against negative consequences. You didn’t see the signals that warned you that you’d skated onto thin ice once too often. Now, you’re out. If you’d like to… Read More

Question: When I quit my job, I didn’t give notice, and it wasn’t a friendly parting of ways. My former boss was a jerk and a bully, and I finally decided I had enough. On my way out the door, my boss reminded me that the non-compete I’d signed when he hired me included an agreement not to solicit any former customers or coworkers for 12 months. My boss warned me he’d… Read More