Blaming

Question:

I asked one of my co-workers for a small amount of assistance with our company’s proprietary software program. He told me he’d get around to helping me but then he left the office without doing so. As a result, I didn’t complete a project and was dinged for it.

When I explained to my boss what happened, he didn’t listen. I quit in disgust.

I need to know whether it’s best to leave this three-month job off my resume or explain why I quit. My former boss reads your column and I’d like you to comment on employers that don’t provide training to new employees but expect them to beg help from co-workers.

Answer:

Leave the job on your resume. If you don’t and a hiring interviewer learns you left it off, perhaps by asking you what you did during that time gap, you appear dishonest.

You can say you resigned because the job and employer weren’t what you hoped to find when you took the position. Then, outline what you seek in an employer and job. If your interviewer likes what you say, he’ll move on to the next question.

Don’t however, fall into the trap of blaming either your past employer or co-worker. No employer wants to hire a finger-pointing employee. Further, blaming wastes time and mental energy. After all, if you say others are the responsible ones who need to fix things, you admit you have little power.

Yes, your co-worker could have helped you. Is there more to that part of the story? For example, did you ask him in time or start the project late? Yes, employers needed to provide new employees training on proprietary software. Your employer may have done so, as the best training often comes from on-the-job assistance from co-workers — which you characterize as begging. Finally, was your boss a rude man who “didn’t listen” or was he tired of how you shift responsibility to others?

© Dr. Lynne Curry is author of ”Beating the Workplace Bully” and ”Solutions” as well as owner of the management/HR consulting/training firm The Growth Company Inc. Follow her on Twitter @lynnecury10 or at www.bullywhisperer.com.

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